Most goals are borrowed


This week, I’m borrowing a tweet that borrowed an idea from James Clear.

Jason is a fellow Singaporean whom I follow on Twitter. He’s one of those crazy people who wakes up at 4am every day to work. I mean crazy in a good way, I really respect his drive!

This is an interesting thought with multiple levels.

Level 1: Omg, you mean the goals I set for myself aren’t even original to me?! I never thought about that! Mind blown.

Level 2: I realise most of my goals are borrowed and only make sense in relation to my social circle, culture, and family upbringing. So what? I still want them.

Level 3: I realise most of my goals are borrowed. I want to be original. I shall embark on a self-actualisation journey to figure out what I personally want out of life.

Level 4: I realise most of my goals are borrowed. I went on a self-actualisation journey and realised most of my existence only makes sense in relation to others. So… I still want most of my borrowed goals. Although I tweaked a few here and there based on what I really care about.

Level 5: I realise most of my goals are borrowed. I also realise most of my existence only makes sense in relation to others. So instead of trying to change the goals, I focused on choosing the relationships and assume the goals that naturally emerge are more aligned with who I want to be.

This was mostly tongue in cheek, and I’m certainly no philosopher. But this goes back to something I think a lot about… Changing your surroundings and relationships instead of trying to exist in conflict with everyone and everything around you.

All this to say… I suspect it’s okay if your goals are borrowed, as long as they’re borrowed from the right people. Choose your heroes wisely.

Seeya next Monday,

Lesley

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